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Time For the Second Half

So, here we are, going into the second half of the month. Fingers raw from all the typing, red with all the ink from editing, cramping with every word. Heads aching. Bleary-eyed from lack of sleep. Wondering how we are going to get through another two weeks of this. But look how far you’ve already gotten. Words on the paper or screen that weren’t there at the beginning of the month. Red ink, like blood on the paper, as you splice and dice that story mercilessly.  A gem of a book forming, or being polished. A dream being born.

We are writers! Say it with me. I am a writer! I can write! And I am! Have you remembered to give yourself permission to write crap? If you haven’t, do it now.

The first step is to dump those words that are in your head on to the screen or paper. It’s only later that you begin to make sense of them. Go ahead and give yourself a pat on the back. You deserve it. You have made it this far and you will make it to the end. It doesn’t matter if you don’t reach your goal. You have still accomplished something. That’s more than most people ever do.

Some people say all writers drink coffee while writing. I drink tea. Does this make me any less of a writer? Nope. It just means I don’t drink coffee. Not all writers are the same. Don’t let anyone tell you that you aren’t a writer just because you don’t fit their preconceived misconception of what makes a writer.

I just used the term “preconceived misconception” in a sentence. That has been one of my goals for years, but this is the first time there has really been a place for it. I have accomplished a goal. I’m going to celebrate.

Whenever you reach one of your goals, you should celebrate as well. Don’t kill yourself writing. Don’t completely shut yourself off from the world. But don’t give up on your dream, either. You can do it. Believe in yourself. I do.

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You Can Do It

Two days in. How are you doing? Have you started yet? Don’t worry. It’s not too late.

Don’t let those overachievers who do the whole thing in the first week get to you. Just do what you can do. That’s all you need to do. You’re not competing with anyone, not even the month. Just because you are using this month to write doesn’t mean you have lost if you don’t finish your goal by the end of the month. The real losers are the ones who don’t even try.

Get to the end of the month and find you haven’t started yet? Again, don’t worry. You can still write. You still aren’t a loser. Get that thought out of your mind right now. I said, GET THAT THOUGHT OUT OF YOUR MIND!

Sorry for yelling, but you needed to hear that. Whatever you do is good enough. Don’t go into the month with an attitude that if you don’t reach your goal, you lose. You are already a winner.

So, don’t worry if you are already behind. You are ahead of those who haven’t even considered it. Maybe you just need a kick in the tush to get you going. Consider yourself kicked.

Believe in yourself. Find others who believe in you. There aren’t any friends or family who do? Well, go on the forums. They will be glad to believe in you. Get in a cabin. You believe in them and they believe in you. Push each other. Support each other. Provide a metaphorical shoulder to cry on. You will be glad you did.

Now, tell those characters in your head to shut up long enough to let you write. They can talk when you need them to. Your muse will be there for you. She might just be playing hide and seek. Keep writing and you will find her. She may be trying to tell you the story you are trying to tell isn’t the story you are meant to tell. Let her lead you.

You don’t have to write for others. It is perfectly alright to write for yourself. It doesn’t make you any less of a writer.

If you are like me, and doing edits this month, that’s okay, too. It is part of the writing process. Every good writer needs to edit. Folks who think you just have to put a few words down on paper, or the computer, don’t know what they are talking about. Real writing is work. It is also fun.

So have fun and get to work!

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You Are An Inspiration

Did you know you were an inspiration? Yes, you are! Just ask Lilo Abernathy, author of The Light Who Shines. No, her book wasn’t written during NaNo, but NaNo was an inspiration. She says “I was hesitant about my ability to write. But when I saw that with NaNo regular people were writing a book in a month, I said ‘Hey, I can write a book!’ It gave me the confidence to go forward.”
Yes, that’s us. Regular people. You don’t have to be Superman or Wonder Woman to write a book in a month. You just have to be persistent. You have to be willing to give up a social life. You have to write, write, and write some more. You have to write until your fingers hurt. You have to write until you can no longer stay awake. You have to write until you can’t write anymore.
What does all of this get you? Well, it gave Ms. Abernathy the confidence to write a novel which is going to be a Kindle Daily Deal on Amazon tomorrow, the 20th. You might not get to have a Kindle Daily Deal, but that doesn’t mean you can’t reach your potential. You just have to believe in yourself. That is one of the main goals of NaNo – to give you the confidence to take that first step and then another, and another, and another, until you have done what you set out to do. You might even find that you can do more than you ever imagined.
I haved decided I am starting today and seeing how far I can get in my novel by the end of the month. Whatever it is, it will be that much more than I had at the beginning of the month. Will I win NaNo for the third year? I don’t know, but I will still be a winner. Why? Because I tried. So many people are afraid to try. They are afraid of failing.
Thomas Edison failed 1000 times before inventing the light bulb. It might take 1000 submissions before someone finally accepts something you wrote. You might publish it yourself. Just don’t give up. As my grandfather used to say “Old I can’t never could do nothing.” My grandfather was a smart man.
Do people think you’re nuts? Great. You have to be nuts to try something like this. People who are not a little nuts are boring. I don’t want to be boring, do you?
So, what do you say? Can I do it? Feel free to cheer me on. I will be happy to return the favor.

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Are You Confident?

That’s it. I’m officially out of words. Who else feels this way?

I guess that means I’ll have to recycle some. As long as I recycle them in a different order, it should be okay. I repeat myself too much as it is.

Blah blah blah. Blah blah blah blah blah. That is what my writing sounds like to me at times. I can only hope it doesn’t sound that way to others. That is, if others will even bother to read it. Who would want to read my words?

These are mindsets I need to get past. It is just so hard. How do you get past lack of confidence? By being around encouraging people? By making a point of being positive even when those around you are negative?

I think it is a little of both. You have to surround yourself with as many encouraging people as possible and as few negative people as possible. It is impossible to have all positive people, but you should have as many as you can. When possible, sever ties with those who refuse to be anything except negative. You don’t need that in your life.

As writers, we have another option to help us through these times. Write it out. Yes, writing out feeling out is fine, but we can also work them out through our characters. Put a bit of yourself in your characters. Bleed onto the page. Your writing will be the better for it.

Lack of confidence will not go away overnight. I know. I have been fighting it all of my life, and it is just now getting better. I will probably fight it for the rest of my life. The trick is not to feel confident and do it anyway.

Now, if I can just convince myself to do that.

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